THE LIFE JOURNEY OF LA. RA. ANANTHAPADMANABAN
THE LIFE JOURNEY OF LA. RA. ANANTHAPADMANABAN
MY JOURNEY
BIRTH AND EARLIEST MEMORIES
• I was born on February 9 in T. Nagar, Chennai.
• I remember living in a large house when I was around one to one and a half years old.
• I remember many coconut trees around that house.
• I remember many people visiting our home during that period.
• I remember a school near our house where my elder brothers used to play cricket.
• I remember their friends lifting me up and carrying me affectionately.
• My father was working in a bank at that time.
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A CHILDHOOD HEALTH MEMORY
• I remember being seriously unwell when I was a very young child.
• I remember people saying that it was difficult to know whether I would survive.
• I remember someone carrying me and running through the rain.
• This remains one of my earliest and strongest childhood memories.
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TENKASI MEMORIES
• I have clear and strong childhood memories of Tenkasi.
• My father was working at a bank in Tenkasi.
• I remember a large house where we lived.
• There was a Krishna temple at the end of the street.
• I remember going to my father's bank during lunchtime.
• I would have lunch at my father's bank.
• I remember walking through the entire Tenkasi bazaar.
• I studied in five different schools during my
childhood, although I do not remember which school was my first school.
• Tenkasi remains one of my clearest early childhood memories.
• I remember these Tenkasi experiences from around the age of four.
• I have clear childhood memories of Tenkasi.
• We lived in a large house, and there was a Krishna temple at the end of the street.
• My father was working at a bank in Tenkasi.
• During lunchtime, I would go to my father’s bank and have lunch there.
• I remember walking through the entire Tenkasi bazaar.
• I studied in five different schools during my childhood, although I do not remember which one was the first.
• Tenkasi remains one of my clearest early childhood memories.
• I remember being around four years old during this period.
• I also visited Courtallam as a young child.
• I remember crying for a toy.
• A wedding took place in the street where we lived, and a wedding canopy covered the entire street.
• Around the age of four, I remember being highly aware of everything happening around me.
• I remember the people around me, their presence, and even their individual smells and scents.
• I remember the smell and atmosphere of the place or town where I was staying.
• I remember what was around me — the surroundings, objects, places, and the environment.
• It felt as though all these details were being automatically recorded in my mind, without me consciously trying to remember them.
• Even at that young age, many small details of the places, people, objects, and surroundings around me remained strongly recorded in my memory.
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BEING LEFT-HANDED
• I have always been left-handed.
• I naturally wrote with my left hand.
• At school, my left hand was tied behind my back.
• I was asked to write with my right hand.
• I remember my father coming to the school and speaking up for me.
• This is one of the childhood incidents that I still remember clearly.
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OTHER EARLY CHILDHOOD MEMORIES
• I remember visiting Courtallam when I was a young child.
• I remember crying for a toy.
• I remember a wedding taking place in the street where we lived.
• The wedding canopy covered the entire street.
• These small incidents have remained in my childhood memory.
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MOVING FROM TENKASI TO AMBATTUR
• Later, we moved from Tenkasi to Ambattur.
• I remember attending Sivasakthi School in Ambattur.
• I remember the names of many of my classmates from that school.
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FIRST LOVE – SIVASAKTHI SCHOOL
• I think my first love may have begun during my time at Sivasakthi School.
• I remember that the girl was taller than me.
• We used to go to school together every day.
• We also returned home together every day.
• Her elder brother was a friend of my elder brother.
• Her elder sister was a classmate of my elder sister.
• We both took part in a musical chairs game at school.
• I won the musical chairs game.
• I received a green-coloured water bag as the prize.
• I still have that green water bag with me even today.
• After that, the girl stopped talking to me.
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MY SCHOOL LIFE – CLASSES 2 TO 5
• Classes 2 to 5 were some of the most wonderful years of my school life.
• They were beautiful years that I genuinely enjoyed and cherished.
• I had a wonderful life during those school years.
• I used to buy and eat almost everything that was sold outside the school entrance.
• There were many different snacks and food
items sold near the school gate.
• I would buy and eat the things that were sold there.
• Those school-gate snacks became an important part of my everyday school memories.
• People used to say that there was a ghost in the school bathroom.
• Because we believed that there was a ghost there, we would never go anywhere near that side.
• I still remember the fear associated with going towards that part of the school.
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RAMASAMY HIGHER SECONDARY SCHOOL –
CLASSES 6 TO 12
• From Class 6 to Class 12, I studied at Ramasamy Higher Secondary School.
• Those years were also a wonderful and memorable part of my life.
• I enjoyed that period of my life very much.
• I was an average student.
• I was not particularly brilliant academically.
• Physics was a subject that I was good at.
• I was better at English than Tamil.
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A CHILDHOOD TRIP TO COIMBATORE
• During my childhood, I once travelled to Coimbatore.
• It was in Coimbatore that I saw a girl and was introduced to her.
• I think I was around 12 years old at that time.
• That meeting remained an early childhood memory.
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MY SCHOOL-YEAR LOVE
• During my school years, I fell in love with a girl when I was young.
• I did not tell anyone about my feelings for her at that young age.
• She later joined the same school.
• We would see each other at school, but we would not talk to each other.
• We would simply see each other without speaking.
• There was a silent awareness between us.
• Those silent school days and the feelings I had for her remain an important part of my school memories.
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BOOKS AND LITERATURE
• Around that age, I developed an interest in English songs and Russian novels.
• I also developed an interest in reading serialized stories.
• Sujatha was one of my favorite writers.
• Leo Tolstoy was one of my favorite authors.
• Reading became an important part of my childhood and teenage years.
• I developed a particular interest in English books and Russian literature.
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ENGLISH MOVIES AND MUSIC
• During my school years, I started watching English movies.
• I began watching English movies regularly.
• I also listened to English songs regularly.
• I used to listen to the popular English songs of that period.
• I would go from shop to shop with cassette tape recorders.
• I would get the popular English songs of that time recorded onto cassette tapes.
• I had a strong interest in collecting and listening to English songs on cassette tapes.
• Music, English movies, English songs, books, Russian novels, and literature became important parts of my childhood and teenage years.
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MY EARLY INTEREST IN TAPE RECORDERS AND HI-FI AUDIO
• From a young age, I had a strong fascination with tape recorders.
• I was very interested in high-fidelity audio equipment.
• We had a hi-fi stereo system and a rack system at home.
• We had a National Panasonic audio system with AFD woofers.
• Music was almost always playing in our house.
• Tamil, English, and Hindi music could always be heard at home.
• Music was a constant part of the atmosphere in our house.
• My fascination with audio equipment and recorded music started at a young age.
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MY FATHER'S BOOK COLLECTION
• My father's room was filled with books.
• Most of the books in his room were English books.
• There were a very large number of books.
• There were hundreds of books in his room.
• Growing up surrounded by so many books
became an important part of my childhood environment.
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MY FAMILY HOME
• Our house was relatively large.
• There were many trees surrounding our house.
• There were not many houses around us during those days.
• The surroundings were much more open and filled with trees.
• Because of the large open surroundings, the many trees, and the lack of nearby houses, the nights could feel frightening during those days.
• I still remember the fear I used to feel at night in that environment.
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MY FATHER'S VISITORS
• My father regularly had people coming to our house to meet him.
• On some days, at least ten people would come to our house to meet my father.
• They would sit with my father and talk with him for long periods.
• Sometimes they would talk with my father throughout the night.
• Coffee would keep being served continuously during these long conversations.
• Hema Amma would keep serving coffee to the visitors.
• Many important and prominent people used to come to our house.
• As a child, I often did not even know who they were or why they had come to meet my father.
• I simply remember seeing many prominent people coming to our house and spending long hours talking with my father.
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FESTIVALS AT HOME
• During major festivals such as Deepavali and Pongal, we would not even know how many people would come and go from our house.
• Many people would come to see my father during those important festival days.
• On those days, my father was the central figure in the house.
• It felt as though everything revolved around my father.
• My father would sit in a large chair.
• People would come to see him and receive his blessings before leaving.
• I remember seeing my father sitting in that large chair while people came to meet him.
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A CHILDHOOD FILLED WITH LOVE AND CARE
• I grew up almost like a prince.
• My father, Hema Amma, Gayathri Akka, and my brother loved me immensely.
• They treated me with great affection and care.
• I was brought up with tremendous love, protection, and attention.
• I did not have to ask for anything because almost everything was available to me.
• There was hardly anything I felt I could not have during my childhood.
• I lived a carefree life without much worry.
• I had very few responsibilities.
• Even though I would often be by myself, I did not have any particular worries.
• I was surrounded by love and was brought up with great affection.
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GEETHA AMMA
• From my childhood, a woman used to come to our house to work.
• I call her Geetha Amma here.
• I believe she was around 25 to 30 years old at that time.
- Another Mother: For nearly 30 years, she cared for me and brought me up like her own son.
- Motherly Love and Care: She gave me the love, care, affection, and emotional support of another mother throughout my life.
- A Special Place in My Life: Geetha Amma became an important part of my childhood, upbringing, and personal journey.
• She cared for me almost like her own son.
• She brought me up with great affection.
• I used to go to her house.
• I used to eat at her house.
• She would make vathal kuzhambu for me.
• She even bathed me when I was a child.
• She cared for both me and Gayathri Akka in many of the ways a mother would care for her children.
• I have never forgotten the love and care she gave me.
• My life in Ambattur became an important part of my childhood and school memories.
THE SNAKE INCIDENT
• There was a frightening incident when a snake entered our house.
• The snake came very close to me and was about to bite me.
• At that moment, Geetha Amma put herself in danger to protect me.
• She risked her own life to save me from the snake.
• That incident remains one of the strongest memories I have of Geetha Amma and the love and protection she gave me.
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THE ELDERLY WOMAN WHO BROUGHT MILK
• There was also an elderly woman who used to bring milk to our house.
• She was a very old grandmother-like woman, perhaps around 85 to 90 years old.
• She had been coming to our house for many years.
• I remember her having been connected with our household for roughly 30 to 40 years.
• Her presence remains one of my childhood memories.
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HEMA AMMA'S COOKING
• Hema Amma was an excellent cook.
• Her cooking was so good that many people would come to our house and enjoy her food.
• Many people were attracted by the taste of her cooking.
• During major festivals, the house would be especially busy with people coming and going.
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VARAGUR AND MY MATERNAL GRANDMOTHER
• I have had a connection with Varagur from my early childhood.
• My mother's mother was a wealthy woman from a farming family.
• Her name was Thangammal, and we called her Thangammal Ammal.
• She had a very large house in Varagur.
• We would go to that house and spend time there.
• I remember that house very clearly.
• There was a Perumal temple near the house.
• Opposite the Perumal temple, there was a very large well.
• I have memories of living in that house.
• My relatives would also be there.
• My aunt's son would also be there.
• Relatives would keep coming to our own house
as well.
• During my childhood, our house was almost always full of relatives and visitors.
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MY GRANDMOTHER'S HOUSE IN MYLAPORE
• When I was around 12 years old, I remember that my grandmother came from Varagur and stayed in Mylapore.
• My grandmother lived in Mylapore for many years.
• Her house was on Apparsamy Koil Street.
• It was a very large house.
• About once a week, Hema Amma, Gayathri
Akka, and I would go there.
• I would play in the street with my aunt's son.
• We used to play goli gundu and cricket in the street.
• I remember those street games very clearly.
• We would sometimes continue playing in the street in the evening and at night.
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MY GRANDMOTHER'S HOMEMADE ICE CREAM AND BISCUITS
• My grandmother lived in Mylapore for many years.
• During those days, she had an old-fashioned
ice machine that had to be operated by turning it by hand.
• She would use that hand-operated ice machine to make ice cream at home.
• She would also make biscuits at home.
• I still remember the taste of those biscuits.
• Even today, I have never eaten biscuits that tasted as good as the biscuits my grandmother made during my childhood.
• The taste of those homemade biscuits remains one of my strongest food memories.
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MY YAMAHA RX100
• I got a Yamaha RX100 when I was still very young.
• Having a Yamaha RX100 at that age was part of the wonderful life I was living.
• I used to travel around on that Yamaha RX100.
• I would spend time riding around on the motorcycle.
• That period of my life was a very enjoyable and carefree period.
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MY 7 PM RULE
• My father had one important rule for me from my childhood.
• Wherever I was, I had to return home by 7 PM.
• This was a firm rule established by my father.
• The habit stayed with me throughout my life.
• Even today, although I live alone, I generally return home around 7 PM.
• That childhood rule is still present in my life even now.
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MY COLLEGE LIFE
• My college life was very different from my school life.
• I do not have much to say about my college life.
• I did not particularly like college.
• I studied in college even though I did not like it.
• I continued my college education without having the same enjoyment or attachment that I had toward my school years.
• Compared with my school life, my college life did not leave me with many memorable experiences.
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MY CAREFREE CHILDHOOD AND YOUTH
• My childhood and youth were largely carefree.
• I lived without much worry.
• I had very few responsibilities.
• I did not have to worry much about getting the things I wanted.
• Almost everything I needed was available to me.
• I was deeply loved and cared for by my family.
• My father, Hema Amma, Gayathri Akka, my brother, and Geetha Amma all played important roles in giving me that love and care.
• Even when I was alone, I did not feel that I was living a life filled with worry.
• I was brought up in an environment where I felt protected, cared for, and deeply loved.
• Looking back, I remember that period as a very
wonderful, carefree, and deeply loved life.
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COLLEGE LOVE
• During my college years, I fell in love with the younger sister of a girl who studied with me.
• The girl who studied with me and I were the same age.
• Her younger sister was younger than me.
• I had feelings for her and wanted to see her, so I would often go to their house just to see her.
• She would talk to me, and she was very nice and friendly when she spoke with me.
• We had conversations, and I enjoyed talking with her.
• However, I did not have the courage to tell her that I was in love with her.
• I kept my feelings to myself until the end.
• Twenty years later, one day, she found me and called me on the phone.
• She asked me, “Why didn’t you ever tell me that you loved me?”
• That is the situation I think about — after all those years, she had found me and wanted to know why I had never told her about my love
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A Major Love Experience in My 20s
• In my 20s, I attended a computer class, and that was where I first saw her.
• She reminded me very much of Hema Amma, almost like my mother in certain ways. I felt a strong connection toward her and eventually fell in love with her.
• I told her that I loved her, but she did not accept my feelings. It broke my heart.
• I remained emotionally attached to her for more than ten years, even though she later fell in love with someone else, married him, and moved to abroad.
• I could not change my feelings or move forward during that period. Those ten years became one of the most painful periods of my life.
• Even today, I have very little memory of what actually happened during those ten years. I cannot clearly remember what I did or how those years passed. That entire period feels almost like a blank space in my life.
• Looking back, I feel that I lost many things during that time — my work, my love, and my dream of going to America.
• This was also the first and only major humiliation I experienced in my life.
• I have always had a strong sense of self-respect. Hema Amma also had a strong ego
and came from a wealthy family, and I grew up with that same sense of pride and self-respect.
• For someone like me, putting aside that ego and openly telling a woman that I loved her was a very significant step.
• When she rejected me and I felt that she had not treated me properly, it became a deeply humiliating experience for me.
• After that experience, I never again told anyone that I loved them, no matter how I felt about them.
• Even though many years have passed, I remember this as the one experience in my life that affected me at that level.
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2005 — A Major Turning Point in My Life
• In 2005, my father passed away on his birthday. His death was a tremendous shock
to me.
• After my father’s death, it was just Hema Amma and me at home. Gayathri Akka had already got married and moved away.
• Everything suddenly felt different. The family structure I had known throughout my life had changed, and the path of my life also began to change.
• I gradually lost my faith in life. I stopped having confidence in anything and found it difficult to believe in people, circumstances, or even in the future.
• About ten years later, I developed feelings for another woman.
• I never told her about my feelings. Once again, I kept my love to myself.
• It was also around this period that my elder brother, Chandrasekar, introduced me to the Law of Attraction.
• This became an important turning point in
my life. From that point onward, my outlook and the direction of my life slowly began to change.
How My View of Life Changed
• After that period, my perspective on life began to change.
• Although I had lost much of my confidence in life, I still had a desire for love and continued to believe that love could have a place in my life.
• I cannot fully explain exactly how my outlook changed, but one important part of that change was the period when I began to understand Hema Amma more deeply.
• As she grew older, I wanted to spend more and more time with her. I began preparing myself to be there for her and to dedicate my life to taking care of her.
• There were many sacrifices I was willing to make for that purpose, although I cannot describe all of them here.
• After my father passed away, Hema Amma lived for approximately another fifteen years. During those years, I started spending a great deal of my time with her.
• Being with her for so many years helped me understand her personality in a way I had not understood before.
• I began to realize that I had inherited many of Hema Amma’s qualities without even consciously knowing it.
• She had a very strong sense of self-respect and ego, and I realized that I had the same nature.
• If she was deeply hurt or humiliated by someone, she would not return to that place or maintain a relationship with that person again.
• Once she felt humiliated, she could completely remove that person from her life, without maintaining any connection with them.
• I realized that I had the same pattern within me.
• Even if the relationship had once involved deep love or a very strong bond, once I felt seriously humiliated, I would completely withdraw from that person and would not want to maintain any connection with them again.
• I came to understand that this part of my nature was deeply connected to what I had observed and absorbed from Hema Amma throughout my life.
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After My Love Failure — My View of Marriage
• That one experience of love and heartbreak
opened my eyes in many ways.
• After I turned 30 and began to understand life differently, my attitude toward marriage also changed.
• I gradually felt that I should not get married.
• Even if I did get married, I had a feeling that I might not be able to live peacefully. There was something inside me that seemed to hold me back from marriage, but I could never clearly understand what it was.
• Over time, my desire to marry gradually disappeared.
• There came a stage in my life when I decided that Hema Amma was everything to me and that I would build my life around being with her and taking care of her.
• At the same time, love did continue to enter my life at different stages.
• I fell in love with people, and there were also periods when many people loved me.
• Looking back, those years were filled with different experiences of love, attraction, attachment, and emotions, even though marriage itself had gradually moved away from my mind.
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December 31, 2020 — Hema Amma’s Death
• Four days before her death, Hema Amma told me that she would be alive for only four more days. I did not believe her.
• Until the end, she seemed completely normal to me. She was not bedridden; she was watching television as usual.
• On December 31, 2020, Hema Amma passed away.
• Even then, I did not cry at first.
• Only after some time did I begin to understand how completely my life and the house had changed.
• Until then, our house had always been full of people, housekeepers, visitors, prayers, and activity. There was always something happening, and the house was full of life.
• After Hema Amma’s death, all of that gradually stopped. People stopped coming, the housekeepers stopped coming, and even the lamps in the house were no longer lit.
• I kept Hema Amma’s room exactly as it was, without disturbing anything. I began locking many of the other rooms, and even today, several rooms in the house remain locked.
• Slowly, I understood the reality that I was now the only person left in that house.
• The house that had once been filled with people, voices, movement, and happiness became almost like a deserted place.
• I still live in the same house today, but there is nobody else here. There are no familiar voices, no visitors, and nothing much
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happens anymore.
• It feels as though the happiness and life that existed when Hema Amma was there went away with her.
• The house remains the same, but everything inside it has changed. Only time continues to move forward.
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My Writing Journey Since 2019
• In 2019, I suddenly felt that I wanted to write a story. I think the first story I started writing was called “Akka.” It was connected to my own life in some way, although I cannot explain exactly how. I felt that the story came out exceptionally well.
• After that, writing became surprisingly easy for me. I have completed around 150 stories and have another 100 stories already written and kept aside.
• Many of my love stories may have been inspired by things that happened in my own life, things I observed, or things I heard from others. I often blend reality with imagination.
• The sharp dialogues and situations in my stories may also come from real experiences in some form, even when they are combined with imagination. The lovers and relationships in my stories may have been shaped by my own experiences or may be entirely imaginary.
• Poetry also began to come to me unexpectedly. I have written more than 1,500 poems so far.
• Writing stories and poems gives me a certain kind of happiness. I will continue writing as much as I can and see where it takes me.
• I do not know what will come next in my life.
• I have never had a great interest in
technology, but circumstances left me with no choice, and I had to work with it.
• Many of the things I once wished for never happened. I do not know what the future holds, but I have stopped expecting those things to happen.
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A Belief About Love in My Life
• There is one thing I can say with certainty from my own experience: somewhere, someone is always loving me.
• Some people tell me directly. Others never say it, but show it through their actions.
• For some, their way of expressing love may be through gifts. Some cook for me, while others come to my home simply to spend time talking with me.
• Sometimes I can see their feelings in the way they behave, even without them saying
the word “love.”
• There have also been people who searched for me on the internet, stayed awake thinking about me, or found their own ways of keeping a connection with me.
• Some people who once left my life have returned again, and sometimes they have left again.
• This has been a recurring part of my life: love has appeared in many different forms, whether spoken, shown through actions, or left unspoken.
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Life After Hema Amma’s Death
• After Hema Amma’s death, I gradually became much quieter.
• I generally do not talk to people unless they speak to me first. I rarely initiate conversations and I do not usually call anyone myself.
• The only two people I regularly call are Gayathri Akka and Chandrasekar.
• Apart from them, I generally do not call or speak to anyone.
• Without realizing it, six years have passed in this way.
Writing From Emotion
• While writing stories such as “Akka,” “Aarthy,” “Pilot,” “Adayalam,” “Janani,” “Thiyagam,” “Vetri Vettai,” “Kolusu,” “Ribbon,” “Mookuthi,” “Vidhya,” and “Oru Melliya Kodŭ,” there were times when tears came to my eyes and I cried.
• I feel that these stories, along with many others I have written, are connected to my life in some way.
• Some may come from my own experiences,
some from things I have seen or heard, and some may contain imagination, but somehow each of them carries a connection to my life
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Life After Hema Amma — Gayathri Akka
• After Hema Amma passed away, Gayathri Akka became the most important person in my life.
• For the past six years, she has been taking care of me every day.
• She makes sure that I have my food every day and looks after me in every way she can.
• In many ways, she has become like a second mother to me after Hema Amma.
• Hema Amma was the person who took care of me throughout my life, and after her, Gayathri Akka has taken that place in my life in her own way.
• She is the person who is there for me and looks after me, even though I now live alone.
• Because of everything she has done for me during these years, I feel that I should now live for Gayathri Akka and for her son.
• At this stage of my life, that is enough for me — to be there for them and to make sure that I can do whatever I can for them.
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• The Dreams That Did Not Come True
• When I look back at my life, I realize that many of the dreams I once had never came true.
• I wanted to become a Western music composer. I had that dream, but I did not have the talent I needed to become one, and I could not achieve it.
• I wanted to become a great person in life in some way — to achieve something
significant and make something of myself. That also did not happen in the way I had imagined.
• I wanted to fall in love with a woman, not be rejected by her, and eventually marry the woman I loved. That dream also did not come true.
• I wanted to live in America. That too never happened.
• Above everything else, I wanted to be happy in life. Even that did not happen in the way I had hoped.
• When I look at all these dreams together, I feel that many of the things I once wished for remained only dreams.
What Life Gave Me
• At this age, when I look back at my life, I realize that I have received some of the
greatest forms of love a person could receive.
• I had the love of my father, Hema Amma, Chandrasekar, Gayathri Akka, and Geetha Amma — the name I used to call the woman who cared for me and helped raise me for around thirty years.
• I also received genuine love from people at different stages of my life, in ways I sometimes understood only much later.
• When I think about the way I was brought up, I realize that I truly grew up almost like a prince, surrounded by love, care, protection, and affection.
• Much of what I received in life was never something I asked for or expected. It simply came to me through the people who loved and cared for me.
• Even today, there are people who love me without always saying it directly. Some tell
me openly, while others express their feelings through the way they care for me.
• If I get hurt or even become unwell, some of them become so concerned that tears come to their eyes while they look after me. That kind of concern is also a form of love, and I understand it.
• Some people express their love by talking to me, some by giving me gifts, and some by bringing me food or giving me something they feel I would like. It could be anything — food, a useful item, or something small.
• I understand that these may simply be the ways in which they know how to express their love. They may not always be able to say it in words, but their actions communicate something to me.
• I am grateful to all of them for the love they have given me, whether they expressed it through words, actions, gifts, food, care,
tears, or simply by being there.
• When I look back at my life, I realize that I may not have received everything I once dreamed of, but I received something I could never have planned for myself — the genuine love of people who truly cared for me.
• For all of that, I am truly grateful.
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La. Ra. Ananthapadmanaban — Words & Memories That Remain
Words and memories from different chapters of my life that have remained with me.
- “I did not fall in love with you because of your age. I fell in love with you because of your heart.”
- “My heart is like an ocean. There is something more between us that I cannot define.”
- “Why did you come to my house that day? You would always ask me before coming, wouldn’t you? Did you come just to see me like this? If you had not come that day, I would have left without telling you that I loved you. I would have gone abroad without ever telling you about my love.”
- “I will not tell you that I love you. You have to understand it yourself.”
- “I know you like me so much. I know how much you like me.”
- “I want to have a baby who looks like you — your face, your eyes. I want those eyes to look at me.”
- “I don’t believe in love anymore. Will you marry me?”
- “I don’t want someone who knows about computers and software. I want someone like you — someone who writes poetry, writes stories, and appreciates music.”
- “I don’t have any big ambitions. I just want to marry you and be with you. That’s all I want.”
- “The way you remain silent attracts me. But the way you speak draws me toward you even more.”
- “Even if I forget you, there has never been a day when I did not think of you.”
- “Only at this age do I understand that losing you when I was young was such a great mistake. I cannot change my old life, but I can create a new life if you agree.”
- “You never even tried to pursue me. That was exactly what made me try to pursue you.”
- “No matter what happens, this marriage is not going to happen. Even so, I love you.”
- “You never told me that you loved me. Why didn’t you tell me? If you had told me, I would have married you.”
- “I like your Amma more than I like you.”
- “I could see that you were afraid of love. That is why you could not express your love.”
- “You never said whether you like me or not. How am I supposed to understand that?”
- “I live with the fear of losing you.”
- “I always thought that living alone was the best way to live. But after seeing you, I am wondering if I should change my decision.”
- “After your father and mother, who do you have in your life? Can I be the one who comes after them?”
- “If anything happens to you, I cannot bear it. Don’t ride a motorcycle; please go by car.”
- “Even when I insulted you, you never insulted me. That itself makes me feel deeply ashamed.”
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